Hair touching : the silent insult or compliment

How many times have you been asked by a stranger to touch your hair or let them see what it feels like?

How did that make you feel?

Today as I was shopping, the family ahead of me in line was faced with that question.
The customer behind me asked,” may, I touch your daughter’s hair, I just want to see what it feels like.”

The mother:”what does it suppose to feel like”

The customer: “Oh it’s soft, even though, it looks woolly.”

The mother:”You can’t always assume by looking.”

The child: “Mommie, why did she say my hair looks like wool.”

The mother: “Because she’s a profiler, a person that has jaded view of your hair.”

The family was bi-racial, the customer was Caucasian. Just by hair touching, imagine the perception that may have been embedded in the child’s mind. Which may, as she gets older lead her to chemically straightening her hair because she once heard it was woolly. The term woolly means resembling to wool, lack of order,or hard to restrain. A better term would be kinky. Kinky hair is hair that grows in zigzag patterns that interlock strands directly from the scalp. As people we have to be mindful of our choice of words, that may discourage children.

I can remember three years ago, a co-worker of mine, asked if she could feel my hair because it looked soft. After she touched it she said,”it doesn’t look like black people’s hair.” So,I asked what does black people hair look like. She said,”you know, woolly, knotty looking.” I replied, if I didn’t relax mine it would probably look the same way too.

I immediately felt insulted, the more I thought about it. As that day went on, my view changed. No matter what texture a person’s hair is, there is beauty in it. It’s grown out of our bodies, which is a part of creation. I realized, some people’s perception of different ethnic group’s hair is distorted. Hair touching opens up a door for opportunity to appreciate your heritage or seek education to value it. It may also be a compliment as well.
In return I asked the co-worker, if I could feel her hair. She says,”so what does it feel like”. I told her, “hair”.
Imagine someone wanting to feel, smell, or touch something they don’t own.

Please ask before hair touching. Some may take it as an insult others as a compliment.

Treating Tresses


Gabby’s Hair was fit for the occassion.

                                                                                Gabby Douglas’s Hair was fit for the occasion. Some of the things you should have told Gabby Douglas, are far more important than her hair.She should have be congratulated for her courage and her accomplishments for being an Olympic Gold Medalist for 2012 and 2016. She should have been applauded for making history.  If the only thing some people are worried about is her hair, it’s a sad day in time.Her hair doesn’t define her identity, talents, gifts or abilities.It saddens me as a Cosmetologist to see the attacks on her hair, as she is making a mark in history. If she wore  a bonnet or du-rag, that would have been another thing,but she wore a protective style for the occasion. It really shows the pettiness of people.  I wonder if, the people that Twitted, considered how it would effect her. Her hair was styled just the way it needed to be. She was not there to impress the people with a fabulous hair style, she was there to make history and pave the way for some little girls who admire her. It’s a false sense of identity, when your hair determines your worth.

Roller Set


Rollers Sets are also great for protective styling and less heat

Heat protection for appliances

This is one of my favorites. It’s great for protecting against heat appliances.


My choice of Vitamins


I highly recommend this!
I get maximum results with Biotin, I was experiencing¬† thinning about 5 months ago in my crown area, my hair was dry and lacking luster. I decided to try a higher dosage, and I can honestly “see” the difference.


Omega 3-6-9, I use as well for benefits of the fish,flax,and borage oil, it’s a great vitamin for hair, skin, and nails.


I use Vitamin E, for my skin, but my hair benefits as well. I alternate days when I consume them . Sometimes I take the pull and open and rub on my face during bedtime and I let it sit for 20 minutes. It may feel,sticky but after it’s rinsed off, your face will feel renewed. It’s not harsh like some of the exfoliatants.
* When taking any supplements or vitamins, make sure you check the daily value recommended.

Mizani Intense Cleansing Shampoo


Mizani Intense Cleansing Shampoo is gentle cleansing shampoo that doesn’t strip natural oils from the hair.It’s great to use once a month for product build up on your hair shaft. After using, make sure you follow up with a conditioning shampoo and a liquid leave-in conditioner.

Dry Styling Oil

My favorite dry styling oil!

I recommend it because it’s lightweight and leaves my hair soft. I don’t experience dry hair with this macadamia oil. It’s non-greasy and leaves my hair silky. I use it for wet and dry styling. I gives my hair a healthy shine and it’s great at taming split ends. It may be used on ALL, hair types.

Purchase it here

Nothing like hands on


It was a pleasure meeting Chuck Caple at his Bauhaus Theory and Haircutting Class in Atlanta, Georgia.His lecture was phenomenal. Mr. Caple gave nuggets of information as to building an art form when haircutting. Key factors were:
*There are no five minutes haircuts
*You can’t put the same haircut on every client
*A haircut is like a blueprint
*Build a hair cut by using architectural principles

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