Hair touching : the silent insult or compliment

How many times have you been asked by a stranger to touch your hair or let them see what it feels like?

How did that make you feel?

Today as I was shopping, the family ahead of me in line was faced with that question.
The customer behind me asked,” may, I touch your daughter’s hair, I just want to see what it feels like.”

The mother:”what does it suppose to feel like”

The customer: “Oh it’s soft, even though, it looks woolly.”

The mother:”You can’t always assume by looking.”

The child: “Mommie, why did she say my hair looks like wool.”

The mother: “Because she’s a profiler, a person that has jaded view of your hair.”

The family was bi-racial, the customer was Caucasian. Just by hair touching, imagine the perception that may have been embedded in the child’s mind. Which may, as she gets older lead her to chemically straightening her hair because she once heard it was woolly. The term woolly means resembling to wool, lack of order,or hard to restrain. A better term would be kinky. Kinky hair is hair that grows in zigzag patterns that interlock strands directly from the scalp. As people we have to be mindful of our choice of words, that may discourage children.

I can remember three years ago, a co-worker of mine, asked if she could feel my hair because it looked soft. After she touched it she said,”it doesn’t look like black people’s hair.” So,I asked what does black people hair look like. She said,”you know, woolly, knotty looking.” I replied, if I didn’t relax mine it would probably look the same way too.

I immediately felt insulted, the more I thought about it. As that day went on, my view changed. No matter what texture a person’s hair is, there is beauty in it. It’s grown out of our bodies, which is a part of creation. I realized, some people’s perception of different ethnic group’s hair is distorted. Hair touching opens up a door for opportunity to appreciate your heritage or seek education to value it. It may also be a compliment as well.
In return I asked the co-worker, if I could feel her hair. She says,”so what does it feel like”. I told her, “hair”.
Imagine someone wanting to feel, smell, or touch something they don’t own.

Please ask before hair touching. Some may take it as an insult others as a compliment.

Treating Tresses


6 services that may your tresses

6 services that may damage your tresses

1. Applying relaxers to often and neglecting to use a neutralizing shampoo, followed by a moisturizing shampoo

2.Misusing hair products with a high alcohol content(spritz, gels,hair sprays)

3. Highlighting hair to frequent

4. Excessive amount of heating appliance usage

5. Frequency of chemical services

6. Relaxing very weak, thinning, or brittle hair

If your tresses, show signs or concern seek a Licensed Cosmetology to assist you.

2013 Super Bowl Tresses

Okay! This has been the best part of 2013 Super Bowl. The ladies of the night has pulled off their glamorous looks.


Jennifer Hudson performed with the Sandy Hook Elementary School Choir wearing a messy, but stylish side bun. It blended well with the heavy layered bangs. Bold and beautiful red lips with a minimal amount of foundation.


Alicia Keys serenaded the stage with short slick tresses. A very low maintenance classic hairstyle.


Commanding the crowds attention!

Beyonce, Kelly, and Michelle owned the stage with their long shades of color. Beyonce wearing her signature blonde tresses with body waves, Kelly graces the stage with Milk Chocolate Ombre tresses, and Michelle pops up with Ravishing Raspberry colored tips.

These trendy styles will be some of 2013 Spring Hairstyles.

Heat protection for appliances

This is one of my favorites. It’s great for protecting against heat appliances.


Mizani Intense Cleansing Shampoo


Mizani Intense Cleansing Shampoo is gentle cleansing shampoo that doesn’t strip natural oils from the hair.It’s great to use once a month for product build up on your hair shaft. After using, make sure you follow up with a conditioning shampoo and a liquid leave-in conditioner.

Nothing like hands on


It was a pleasure meeting Chuck Caple at his Bauhaus Theory and Haircutting Class in Atlanta, Georgia.His lecture was phenomenal. Mr. Caple gave nuggets of information as to building an art form when haircutting. Key factors were:
*There are no five minutes haircuts
*You can’t put the same haircut on every client
*A haircut is like a blueprint
*Build a hair cut by using architectural principles